Go toward the fear: why the actions you avoid are the ones that unlock success
Stop avoiding the stuff that makes your guts squirm. That’s where magic happens, and you’re missing it by hiding under your duvet.
Fear isn’t the enemy — it’s the fucking map to success
You know that little tickle in your gut?
No, not that one, you filthy-minded weirdo! 😏
The one that feels like a mix of dread and indigestion when you think about doing something that matters?
Yeah, that’s fear.
And we’ve been trained — like fucking mental cats — to run the other way the second we feel it.
But here’s the thing: fear isn’t the bad guy, it’s more like that irritating sat-nav telling you exactly where you need to go.
Except instead of “recalculating,” it’s screaming, “DO THIS OR MISS OUT ON SOMETHING BIG, YOU FOOL!”
To-do lists are where this nasty little bastard hides.
There’s that thing on your list you’re avoiding, right?
The one that sits there, glaring at you like a silent judgement, daring you to ignore it again today.
That’s the thing you need to do.
What’s the fucking problem?
We avoid fear like it’s a toilet at a festival.
But what if, instead of treating it like a cesspool of discomfort, we looked at it as a giant neon arrow pointing toward growth?
The thing is, most of us are pros at staying comfortable.
We stick to our routines like they’re the Holy Grail, and anything that threatens that fragile bubble of comfort?
Pfft.
We’re out faster than a vegan at a steakhouse.
The real issue?
Fear is like that creepy boss who sidles up and says, “You know, there’s a lot of potential here if you’re willing to take the plunge.”
But instead of diving in, we sit on the edge of the pool, too scared the water’s cold.
The top 3 questions you’re too scared to ask about fear
“What if I fail?”
Yeah, that’s the point.
You will fail.
But failing isn’t some life-ending apocalypse.
It’s more like tripping over your own shoelaces in public: embarrassing, but hardly fatal.
You get up and keep walking, but with more humility (and a scraped knee).“What if people judge me?”
Look; Karen (or Kevin) is probably judging you already, so why let that stop you?
Everyone’s too busy judging themselves to really care.
People are gonna judge you whether you sit at home doing nothing or actually make a move.
Might as well give them something worthy of gossip.“What if it’s too hard?”
Fuck yeah: it will be hard.
But since when did hard things become the enemy?
Going toward the hard stuff is where the breakthroughs happen.
That’s where you get the sense of achievement.
If it was easy, it wouldn’t be worth doing.
It’s like ordering a Big Mac at McDonald’s.
Sure, it’s easy, but no one’s impressed.
Feel the fear, then kick it in the nuts
Here’s what you do.
Take that big, scary, avoid-at-all-costs item on your to-do list.
You know the one.
The thing that’s been sitting there like a turd on your soul for weeks.
Now, stare it down.
Let the fear hit you.
Feel it wash over you like the world’s shittiest wave of diarrhoea.
Then do it anyway.
Just bring a change of clothes.
You can start small — we’re not throwing you to the wolves here.
Take the tiniest, most ridiculous first step toward the thing that scares you.
The idea here isn’t to immediately launch yourself into the great unknown like you’re auditioning for “Fear Factor.”
No, it’s more like dipping your toe into a cold swimming pool.
Test the waters, feel that ice-cold slap-in-the-balls, then step in.
Why this works (and why avoiding fear makes your life rubbish)
Fear feels like a roadblock, but it’s just a green light for progress dressed in a killer clown costume.
The more you avoid the fear, the more you’re avoiding life’s greatest opportunities.
If you’re sitting around waiting for that perfect, non-scary moment to make a move, you’ll be waiting forever.
Opportunity doesn’t come with a calm, zen garden soundtrack and a free massage.
It comes with a side of anus-clenching fear and nausea.
But if you need a way to calm the nerves, try this:
3 benefits of going toward the fear:
You’ll stop being a scared little hobbit in your own life.
Hiding from fear keeps you small, like a hamster in a cage, endlessly running on the wheel of mediocrity.
Facing fear?
That’s you saying, “Screw this, I’m Bilbo Baggins, off on a fucking adventure.”Growth, baby.
Fear is where growth happens.
If you’re not feeling a little terrified, you’re not pushing yourself.
And if you’re not pushing yourself, you might as well be a potted plant.
Nobody’s impressed by the low-effort.
Or potted plants.Confidence boost.
Nothing feels as good as proving your brain wrong.
Every time you do something that scares you and you survive, you build a stack of “I’m a badass” receipts.
And those receipts add up to the kind of confidence money can’t buy.
Feel the fear and fucking do it anyway
Look, fear is always going to be around.
It’s that annoying friend who’s convinced every worst-case scenario is about to happen.
But you?
You’ve got shit to do.
And the only way you’re going to get it done is by looking fear in the eye and saying, “Not today, asshole!”
Because while fear is busy screaming about all the terrible things that might happen, success is sitting on the other side of that screaming, just waiting for you to come and fuck it in the ass.
Grab that ass with both hands.
Final thoughts:
You’ve got a choice.
You can keep avoiding fear and stay exactly where you are, wondering why life feels like it’s stuck in shit.
Or, you can move toward it, take the hard action, and start building the life you actually want.
It’s not going to be easy, but neither is living in fear.
And at least with the second option, you come out the other side with an amazing story to tell.
Now go.
Go toward the fear.
I promise, the water’s not as cold as it seems.
Stop scrolling and start facing your damn fears
Alright, you’ve made it to the end.
Congrats, gold star and all that.
But let’s be real — you could read articles about fear all day long and still sit there, cosied up in your blanket fort, avoiding the very thing that’s going to move the needle in your life.
So, what’s it gonna be?
Keep hiding, or step out and face the thing that’s been making your ass sweat like you’re in a sauna with a woolly mammoth?
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Or do.
But then, you’re just proving me right, aren’t you?